Actually, don’t. I am notoriously awful at asking for help. On anything. If I can do something all by myself, even at the risk of great misery, suffering, and potential physical injury, I will. I admit it.
I try to think of this as an endearing independent streak. And thinking about “something you never get compliments on,” for the 30 days of truth, it would be a biggie. Well, and no one ever compliments me on being tall or deeply tanned… but at 5’0″and redheaded, those are to be expected. It seems that other human beings in this world are capable of asking for help when they need it without hemming and hawing for weeks and making everyone else guess what they need. Odd.
For example, when my giant television died, in all its 200 pound glory, it needed to go out the curb on trash night. I know lots of menfolk. And muscle-y womenfolk for that matter. All of whom, had I bothered to ask them, would have come over for the ten minutes it would take to help me drag the beast out the front door. But instead, I developed a complicated maneuver with a throw rug and dragged it out, rolling it down the steps, despite its being bigger than me. I didn’t want to bother anyone. Even if it meant possibly ending up under said television just out of reach of my cell phone waiting to be rescued by my newspaper guy and sucking water from a houseplant to survive for several days.
The thing is, I like to do favors for other people. If you need something last-minute and at midnight and that involves personal sacrifice, I will show up with bells on and a bottle of champagne. Gladly. Without thinking twice. And I’ll never mention it again once it’s done. But I have an impossible time asking others to do the same for me. I guess I worry that they’ll resent helping me, or god forbid, say no when I really need it. I don’t want to be disappointed, any more than I want to be a burden.
The time has come though, for me to learn to ask. To give people who love me a chance to help me out once in a while. So, if there’s such a thing as daylight savings time resolutions, this is mine: ask for help when I need it.